Pain and Reality : The Rebound

"He who controls the rebound controls the game" -Takenori Akagi from Slam Dunk!

Just something I wanted to quote about rebounds.. nothing really related to what I'm about to write... or maybe it is..

The feeling of being the rebound guy.. the guy after the Ex who left her...

Ever believe in fairy tales and in happy endings?.. this one is neither...

Being the guy after the Ex who left her is a very tough position to be in, especially if there was really no closure between them, just a bitter ending and a million unanswered questions..

You want to believe that you can be the one to make her forget about the guy, to outmatch him and to be the better man. You want to believe that she'd side with you, be there for you and acknowledge the fact that you're trying your best...

You came out of nowhere, expected this and that and hoped that she'd comply, hoped that she'd be the one girl you hoped for and dreamed of.. believing that she's yours for the taking and that things would go smoothly...

Life's never that easy.

Sooner or later, flashes of her past will begin to surface, memories here and there, resemblances, old habits whatsoever about the previous relationship would soon come into play.. How you deal with them individually dictates the flow of your attitude and mood towards your relationship.. How you deal with them as a couple dictates the outcome of the relationship.

Insecurities? Comparisons? Frustrations?... These are things that should be avoided but is very inevitable to do so, be it in your mind alone without speaking it out, or be verbal about it and discuss it with your partner. Depends on you.

Choosing to keep it all to yourself would lead to frustrations and mood distractions throughout your day. Sure its easy to say that you don't mind any one of them at all, but deep inside we all know that it hurts.. Choosing to speak it out would probably lead to arguments and endless discussions about the past.

It's never easy to love someone who's not over someone yet. It's even harder if she's giving in to the past instead of moving on to the future.. that she's still in the quest to find the answers to all the unanswered questions..

It's our fault for taking the risk, it was ours to take, to make or break.. for believing that we could be the one for her.. You were never wrong for falling for someone you thought was worth it... you were never wrong for believing that it was possible..

The problem was never really you, it was her all along.

In the end, its as simple as you were her experiment, her test if she can move on, her test if the other guy would run back to her now that you're there for her..

You were just the rebound, she controlled you, and she controlled the game.

Stop being a martyr, just live with it and move on.

Reboot Part 2

To all those who read all this shit I write in this blog, whoever you may be or wherever you may be, thank you very much for keeping up with all the drama in this blog.

Reboot again for the second time. Another wave of articles about failures in life and relationships and how the fuck we live with them.

Thanks for reading!

-krmc